Sapphire

A woman is the most precious resource on this earth.  Take a look and you get to see their inner beauty, glow, and their love for the simple things.  Women take love seriously, and in return want to be loved completely.  Fellas, your dealing with precious GEMS please handle with care, consideration, and love no scratches bumps and bruises.  Woman fight hard for love staying in the ring round after round receiving and giving blows through the relationships ups and downs.  Loving a woman is simple, but for men it takes awhile to get it!  We mix simplicity with our own interpretations, fantasies, past stories, expectations, and myths on getting this woman thing right!  We try too hard at times, failing miserably.  We also shut them out, get defensive, retaliate, ignore, run away, when are feelings get hurt.  Relationships can be hard work.  Relationships are beautifully painful sometimes.  Men and women fail to see the hidden beauty of the relationship because as individuals they fail to see the beauty in themselves.  If you don’t see your beauty it’s extremly difficult to see it in others, especially in relationships.  We use words like love, physical attraction, trust, intimacy, honesty, communication, and chemistry to define how to be in a relationship.  However, in a world of distractions, illusions, fantasies, and lots of noise we rarely get to experience these words for ourselves first.  We get pushed through adolescence and early adulthood with no real understanding of how to love ourselves.  We get dragged through the mud of life so much that we think that it’s okay to just throw mud back!  We get older and colder to the meaning of life and all the opportunities to create rich, fullfilling relationships.  We get caught in the web of just pleasing, pleasing, pleasing, no real values.  Listen to advertisements; get this, add this, be this, enhance this, tuck this, enlarge this,etc…  We get told all the time that were not good enough.  It’s like a maze and we stay running around in a game exhausted, tired, frustrated, and confused never feeling at ease or at peace with ourselves.  Take the time to experience your realtionship with your wife or significant other.  Let your guard down.  There is no threat. There is nothing to protect.  Allow your women or significant other to contribute to you.  Let go of the resistance, nobody is trying to change you!  I will use my life as an example.  My wife gave me an opportunity to contribute in her world, and I accepted.  She wanted to catch a train to her Veterinary rotation because the two hour commute was gruesome on her mind, body, and spirit.  She asked if I would take her to the train station and pick her up.  We had great conversation on the way to the train station.  I talked she listened, she talked I listened.  The energy between us was amazing.  We pulled up in the parking lot and my wife became nervous not wanting to miss the train, or be late for her rotation in Tustin,California.  It was cool to witness this vulnerability from my wife.  She felt totally at ease to be nervous, afraid, worried with confidence, and assurance that I had her back.  We walked to the Amtrak station, then to the Metro link train tracks and bought her a pass.  I waited with her until the train arrived, kissed her on the cheek, and watched my wife go out into the world prepared to make a difference.  We explored a new situation together and it felt so fun, natural, and playful.  Our relationship was so alive, free, and joyful.  There are moments like these all the time in relationships.  Take the time to discover , explore, and really appreciate your life, and witness the transformation of your relationship.